Online dating scams

What i am about to share you, may not come as a shock to you and it may surprise some of you.

This not only applies to online dating sites, but almost any form of connection you make with someone new. Online or otherwise.

Below are two emails received by a friend of mine who was looking to meet someone from an online dating site.

She had received many text messages and also spoke many times with this guy, but always seemed to be working abroad.

I wanted to share these with you, so you share with other people you may know who may have also been contacted by other con artists:


Hi to My Amanda,
I’m back at my office now so I better send you an email before I get on with what I have to do in the office. The interested buyers of the equipment just left my office now and we just got back from the site where we all went to test run the equipment and they are satisifed with the work rate of the equipment so I’ll have them back at my office tomorrow for the final negotiation which I’m positive that everything will be fine. Remember I told you in my earlier text that I was going to the bank with Terry and Tom, we were able to clear their money and I will have to go back to the bank now as the money my mum transferred didn’t clear until now, The bank manager just ranged to notify me that it has clared so I will have to go after I am done with your email. I am hoping Josh’s will be available by the time I get to bank also.

Thank you so much for the emails and the songs you sent to me honey and I so love the last one titled “One hand, one heart” although I love the both but my favourite is the one hand, one heart. I so love you darling and you always fill my heart with your unconditional love, I do understand everything you wrote in your email and now I understand how you feel when you are sick but I am glad you are better now and you could get back to work, hope you are not feeling tired and work is not stressful been your first day back at work? I know you will soon finish for today and please let me know once you are home and I will also let you know when I am at quarters then I can hear my wonderful woman’s voice as it soothes my heart and gives me a lot to think about while I am in bed.

Honey you know how much I think about us together everywhere, in the shower, in my office, in my bed and even anywhere I go. You know I will make you feel good in my company and I will always look out for you if we are not together because you are my significant other so I will always love you, care for you and cherish you in all my life. You’re always lighting up my heart with the things you do and say. I feel so happy just having you in my life. You’re my sunshine as I have always been saying, and will forever be my sunshine. You will always be the love of my life, and please never give up, always have faith in us and we will achieve the greatest gift life could ever offer, the gift of hope and love we righteously deserve. Every time I think of you my heart misses a beat. You’re my theme or a dream! Every moment we share together we grow closer.

I’m simply doing all my best so we can be together real soon my darling and I know you understand my effort toward this my angel, everyday I wake up dreaming of our lovely chats and emails which I can never forget in my life. I love you with all that I am, all that I was and all that I will ever be. Please know that my love and I are inseparable and I would want it no other way and if time could express my love for you then it’s forever and a day. I can’t wait to be with you, see your smile, look in your eyes, feel your sweet touch, hear your perfect words and kiss your perfect lips. The way I feel about you some people may call it crazy, some may call it insane, but I call it true love. I really love you my most wonderful Sunshine.

I better go now and I hope this fills your heart with so much smile as you read my email to you.

Loads of hugs and kisses.

Brian xxx

Just in case you are wondering, the names above have been changed.

A few weeks later, he then sends a long email asking for some money.

Hi baby,

I have just got back from the loan company now and I have sent you a couple of text today which I am not sure you receive them and I wonder why if that is true, well now I can write you an email and hopefully it arrives. I spent a couple of hours negotiating with the company and signing of papers and document but they couldn’t be able to grant me all I asked for because I am a foreigner, so $9,500 is all what they could afford to loan me and since I have no choice than to accept the offer so now I am short of 1,100 more to go. Please honey kindly see what you can to do help me with the rest of the funds I need to cover this so I can sort everything between now and tomorrow and I can be home as soon as possible as you know that I have an ultimatum. 

I read your email honey and I quite understand your fears and concern about my my connection with my late wife BUT you have to understand that I have let my past behind me and I am not willing to dwell on the past anymore, truly I loved her but she’s gone and you should understand that we are not going to meet again my love, You are my present, my tomorrow and my future so please I don’t want you to ever think that I’m still attach to her emotionally because that is not me, I actually didn’t want to sell the wedding ring all because I have never thought about it and if it’s something that will give you concern about our relationship then I am ready to let it go without hesitation because you mean a lot to me and I wouldn’t want to loose you for just a ring. You are my everything Amanda and I love you so much that I want to be with you now, I so want to comfort you and make life better for us.

I understand that you are not in a good state of health at the moment and I don’t want you to be stressed out as that could trigger your illness which I would blame myself to be the cause of it honey, so let’s just try all we can to get me home then we can start our new life together and to fulfill our dream of spending the rest of our lives together baby.

I won’t be able to write much now as I have to go to the South Africa tax office now, I received an email from their head office this morning so I need to go there and let them understand that I am doing all my best to sort the taxes as soon as possible so they won’t penalize me on this baby.

I will let you know when I am in later then we could speak over the phone and please do take care of yourself for me darling and I love you so much baby.

You are my everything Amanda.

Lots of hugs and kisses.

Brian xxx


I hope this will help someone avoid being conned.

What was annoying was my friend notified the Police of this and they said they are not interested as no money had been taken?!

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